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Friends & Neighbors,

How's the start to your new year!? Of all the comments I've read and conversations I've had about the start to 2021, this one fit the best. 

Many of us had high hopes that this year would be a departure from the disruption we all encountered in 2020. What I've come to accept is that the change I hope to see in my community has to first start with me. 

Aleksandr Solzhenitsyn, the venerable novelist and philosopher, said that the battle line between good and evil runs through the heart of every person. 

This is a new calendar year, and yet it will come the same challenges and battles we faced last year in our communities and in our homes. How are you finding yourself at your home? Do you like what you see? Do others like what they see? What does the fight for good look like for you?

In last months' newsletter I introduced you to a colleague who has begun working with me at my practice, Marten Fadelle. He's sharing some thoughts below on new beginnings and wintertime. Additionally, I've included some resources that have been helpful in holding strong to New Years resolutions. I had hoped to announce some new men's groups in this newsletter, but due to social distancing, we will have to wait until later this Spring. 

May this year be one of fighting for and growing the good in your life, and in your home. 

Be Well,

Meet Marten Fadelle

Marten is a Marriage and Family graduate student at Trevecca Nazarene University here in the Nashville area. He is going to be interning with me at my office starting in January. Marten has a great deal of life experience that will be a huge benefit to the clients he works with, and in the greater Nashville community. 

Marten’s gentle and curious presence will be a cool drink of water to anyone struggling with anxiety, disruptive life circumstances, or recovery. He has evening and morning spots available at reduced fees starting January 4th. 

:: Areas of Experience ::
Grief and loss
Career transition
Mid-life challenges
Relational conflict
Spiritual Formation and Direction  

:: Fees ::
$55 per session (sliding scale also available)

For more information about Marten or to book an appointment, visit his website here.

How can we help you live a better story in 2021?

New Beginnings and Winter Driving

excerpt by Marten Fadelle

Happy New Year!

While there is much to be hopeful for, and much to be wary of, I felt both a sense of gratitude and relief as January 2021 arrived.  I cannot help but reflect on the year that was as the calendar changed. Given the extra-disruptive impact of COVID-19 on 2020, I feel an added impetus to bring about change in 2021. I feel a desire, perhaps even a pressure, to: 

  • Make this year better than the last;
  • Set a new course;
  • Hit the ground running;
  • Set some new goals and make some positive changes.

While none of these plans and goals are bad (they can in fact, be quite helpful, beneficial, and even necessary), sometimes, given certain scenarios, the veiled expectations of a new start can lead to frustration, anxiety, and disappointment.

I have lived in Tennessee long enough to know that it can get cold and it can get snowy here, but growing up in Southwestern Ontario, winter – prolonged sub-freezing, snow-and-ice winter – was a different reality for 3 or 4 months each year. I liken the wisdom of planning for a change in a new year to “wise winter driving” up North: Make plans; be patient; and be willing to ask for help.

Click here to keep reading Marten's blog post about new beginnings. 


There's no getting around the reality that change is hard. Perhaps you have some physical change that you need to address, or maybe it's something more relational and emotional. Regardless, as Marten says in his blog, you might need to ask for help. Here are a few resources that might help in your 2021 journey: 


Gardner Wellness - Virginia is a PNP (Psychiatric Nurse Practitioner) that does really good work around issues of anxiety, depression, and other mental health medication management. Sometimes change is difficult because our brain is not producing the necessary chemicals. Virginia does an excellent job helping her clients to address these road blocks. 


The War of Art by Stephen Pressfield. While this book is written to professionals and artists, I believe it is a great book for anyone that wants to change. Change is an art. There is no right way to do it. 

Shame and Grace by Lewis Smedes. Change is difficult in part because of our shame tolerance and for shame's propensity to become toxic. Grace is the antidote to toxic shame. 


The Place We Find Ourselves by Adam Young. Fantastic podcast from a fellow therapist. Deep. Engaging. Insightful. Knowing yourself is always a part of the process of how you change. 

The Allender Center Podcast. This is from my graduate school and covers a myriad of topics that will be a great resource in your journey. 
How Can I Help?

"Invest in the millennium. Plant sequoias. Say that your main crop is the forest that you did not plant, that you will not live to harvest. Say that the leaves are harvested when they have rotted into the mold. Call that profit. Prophesy such returns. Put your faith in the two inches of humus that will build under the trees every thousand years." ~ Wendell Berry

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