“Expectations were
like fine pottery.
The harder you held them,
the more likely
they were to crack.” 

~~ Brandon Sanderson

Today Is Valentine's Day!
I would like to wish you Happy Day Of Love and offer you a GIFT. For TODAY ONLY I invite you to bring a buddy to Adventures In Writing. We begin the week of March 8th. See below for details.

Got Expectations? 
   "Where are my roses?" Cheryl said. It was Valentine's day. She was standing at her desk, the receptionist's desk in the front of the office, the phone at her ear.  She had called her boyfriend during her morning break because she was upset her flowers hadn't arrived at the office yet. She was a young girl, maybe 23, maybe a year or two older. It wasn't just her years that made her young, it was her outlook too. She stood there, her long red hair fell to the middle of her back in ringlets, her red silk blouse tucked into her black slacks, her free hand on her hip, a framed picture of expectation, the illustration on the cover of a book about a relationship that ended on Valentine's day.
      But it wasn't just her years that made her seem young, or her high expectations and demands, it was also the tone of her voice, part whine, part warble of pre-cry. And it was the volume of the conversation, the words pushed from her mouth through the office like a thick fog penetrating the workspace and our individual cubicles and into our ears, disrupting not just our workday, but our thoughts as well. 

     I imagined her boyfriend, Greg, on the other end of the phone, maybe angry, maybe scared, maybe wondering, asking himself Did I do enough? or Should I break up with her now?  She didn't know that he didn't send the roses. He seemed like a nice guy, I'd met him, I guessed he had, but it wasn't even 11:30 yet, Valentine's is the busiest day of the year for florists. Patience is important.
     I remember thinking in that moment, after hearing her tone of voice, sharp and expectant stab through the handset of the phone and out the other end, hitting Greg square between the eyes, or worse in the heart, that this relationship was doomed.
     Cheryl had been talking into the phone for a good five minutes, and had closed her lecture with that thorny question: "Did you at least make reservations for dinner?" Then she sighed a deep sigh listening to his answer. 
     "I hope so," she said and, hung up on him, not without aggression. 
     The flowers arrived 15 minutes later. Cheryl and Greg broke up 15 days later. 

    We do what Cheryl did to Greg to ourselves! I'm sure, for some of us, we do this in many areas of our lives. But for today, I want to address how we do this to ourselves when it comes to writing. 
     Well, yes, of course, I was going to bring this back around to writing! Think about it. When you have these super high expectations for yourself when you think your writing should be perfect, or that you should write exactly what you want to write every time you sit down to the blank page, well, guess what, you're in for a shock. 
      Here's what I'd like to share with you on Valentine's Day, Love your messy, imperfect, creative process. AND, love your first drafts even the really crumby ones. Don't EXPECT perfection, practice your craft, strive for excellence, and be kind and love yourself along the way.
     Expectations can kill a relationship (or at least instigate a fight) and they can also kill your creativity. They can get in the way of your process. They can play tricks on your mind. They can ruin your writing experience.
      So, on this Valentine's Day, let go of those pesky expectations. Reframe them. Set reasonable goals. Don't expect perfection, strive for excellence, and when you have that first draft, walk away for a while. Read a book. Take a walk. Take two or three. Do a yoga class. Do two or three. Sleep on it, not just one night but maybe two or three or even more. Then come back with fresh eyes, eyes free of expectation and demand, and you can edit it then. With an open heart and an open mind.
      You never know what you're going to get when you sit down to the blank page and, if you think about it, that's half the fun!!!

     Wishing you a Valentine's Day filled with love for yourself and your creative process. And, when all else fails, there's always chocolate. 

     Happy Valentine's Day! 

PS. If you want to give yourself a Valentine's Day Gift, why not take my class! Today ONLY you can join with your LOVE  or a BUDDY for only $225 EACH!!!!     Use code BUDDY LOVE at Checkout and click the VALENTINE's BUDDY Box for either Monday or Tuesday classes! 




Take Adventures in Writing with a BUDDY

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YOU CAN Be A Better Writer!
Two Classes Meeting Weekly
Monday Evenings or
Tuesday Afternoons
Spring 2021
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Special Gift: Sign up before
February 22nd for only 250
That's a cost savings of almost $50  


Classes begin: 
Monday's March 8th and run thru April 19th, 7:00 pm — 8:00 pm PST
Please Note: We Will Skip March 29th due to Passover
Tuesday's March 9th and run thru April 13th, 1:00 pm — 2:30 pm
All Classes are Virtual VIA ZOOM CONFERENCE.

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Just 225 EACH. That's $37.50 a week. 

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