Welcome to the September 2014 edition of my newsletter! I am humbled by those of you who have subscribed and take this time to express my sincere thanks. If you have already been thanked earlier, know that appreciation can never be conveyed enough!
I hope that when you read my newsletter, it reinforces that self expression is not only rewarding, but freeing. I love to write and also to listen to others' thoughts and ideas. I am an open book. I thrive off the exchange of words with others and what we can teach each other.
Speaking My Truth Feels Right
My husband has said, many times, that I am honest to a fault. Please know that when I write here in this newsletter and speak to you in person, I speak in truth and love. I would never under value or say negative things to take a step up and over someone. It is not in my make up. To do so, in my humble opinion, is nothing more than a cruel and insecure projection by someone else.
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POEM OF THE MONTH
My Heart and Yours
Child of the desert
No mother, no father
You stand there
Encircled in other children
Bodies of bones that protrude
Beneath a mere sheath of skin
Shock my eyes
I breathe inward
Flies upon your face
Feast upon starvation
My heart anguishes
Who tucks you in at night
Under that tree
Or in that decrepit mud hut?
Whose arms keep you warm
And offer you
The reminder that you
Who tells you it's okay to smile
When devastation surrounds you?
I stare openly, dumbfounded
My heart stumbles
Penetrates your life
To eradicate you
So many lives will be
My heart convulses
Not only from your family
But from mere existence
My heart fractures
No one seems to acknowledge you
Encircled in a sea of sand
Stillness surrounds you
My heart yearns to understand
As a flash in the distance
Lights you up
As though fireworks were set off
The sand explodes
And rushes upwards
Catapults to the ground
You stand helpless
As shell casings
Land so close to you
I see your hair blow
As river of blood slithers
My heart beats faster
You grow up too fast
Your body frail
Yet your wisdom boundless
You crouch behind a tree
As the pain in my chest deepens
I so want to change your future
Yet sit here helpless
Or thoughtless or something in between that I try to comprehend
From one human to another
I love you
Tomorrow this could be your heart
And in this moment
I cry with you
My western world may appear bleak
To my sometimes repressed Western world
Yet both fragile
The list is endless
With your heart
"I cannot give you the formula for success, but I can give you the formula for failure, which is: Try to please everybody."
Herbert Bayard Swope
SOMETHING TO THINK ABOUT
A Fall Into Me Day
Fall is upon me and as each leaf drops off of the trees, I am reminded of each new morsel of knowledge that I've learned and absorbed into my being this summer. These morsels are tucked deep inside right now to marinate to take a look at on a day real soon. This day I call my "Fall Into Me Day". It's the one day a year that I sit in silence (or with some good music ;) ) and look at myself deep and honest to decide the next step in my life I should take. Find your own day to do this too. The results are a true gift to your soul!
To Think Deep Allows You To Revisit You
I'm admittedly a deep thinker. My place in society is that I have a natural ability to reach out to people before they even realize that they needed someone to reach for them. For many years, I can now admit, that I let myself shut down after my stroke as I healed. It became very apparent to me last year that in doing so, I had started to shut down the best part of me, the thing that brings me the most happiness - helping myself, as well as others, to achieve goals. Fortunately, I was honest with myself and began to integrate steps to return to being "me". I'm proud I allowed myself to do that. I think having had a few situations happen in my life when words I said were misconstrued, where others tried to paint me into a corner that was not me, coupled with facing death's door twice in a month made me apprehensive. I admit too that I have to work hard to not pull inward and become reclusive. It helps that I'm cognizant of and okay with standing up for myself. I know if I have to walk away because another person imposes it, I can and I will do that. I allow weakness and humbleness in my life and rejoice that I'm not perfect (really no one is). I'm sensitive as well, but that's okay too as it's some of my friends' favorite thing about me. I remind myself that I am a gift to another, it's their loss of a sensitive, compassionate and caring person if they let me go.
Remember ALWAYS that you are a gift to the world. You're unique and there is no one else like you. Let yourself shine and celebrate that! Rest assured that it's okay to stand firm in your beliefs and to never compromise if you don't feel it's beneficial to you. The world is a big place after all that is comprised of many people to befriend you if another doesn't work out. Even the oldest of friends sometimes grow away from you or vice versa. That's okay too. Just go with it. If you are meant to be in each other's' lives, then you inevitably will be ;) If not then let them go only with peace and love in your heart, so it doesn't destroy you with negativity - "disease" is really "dis-ease". Don't allow this in your life by your own doing!
A little reminder too that if you're true to yourself, others of like mind will naturally appear in your life. Please take strength and courage from my experience, I don't mind :) Remember it's better to share happy, fulfilling times with those who see the real you and appreciate what you have to offer, than give all of your breath to someone or people who never listen and above don't support you on your journey as you support them. These people will eventually feel the negative impact of karma anyway so better to not be anywhere nearby ;)
Life is short, enjoy it while you're here only with people who celebrate you as you do them!
If this has never occurred, remember that there are so many people that touch your life - as my mom taught me years ago, "some are here for a reason, a season or a lifetime. It's you who need to differentiate and just let it be". Here's the poem she is speaking of. Read it I guarantee it will make you pause - people come into your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime.
A Poem For Personal Growth
When you figure out which one it is, you will know what to do for each person. When someone is in your life for a REASON, it is usually to meet a need you have expressed. They have come to assist you through a difficulty; to provide you with guidance and support; to aid you physically, emotionally or spiritually. They may seem like a godsend, and they are. They are there for the reason you need them to be.
Then, without any wrongdoing on your part or at an inconvenient time, this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end.
Sometimes they die. Sometimes they walk away.
Sometimes they act up and force you to take a stand.
What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled; their work is done. The prayer you sent up has been answered and now it is time to move on.
Some people come into your life for a SEASON, because your turn has come to share, grow or learn. They bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh. They may teach you something you have never done. They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy. Believe it. It is real. But only for a season.
"LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons; things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation. Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person, and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas of your life. It is said that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant."
- Unknown -
Have you ever had something occur in your own life that spun you onto a different path, much to your surprise? Email me at email@example.com. If you wanna talk, I'd love to hear from you!
MY FITNESS CORNER
Fitness focus this past month has been for my upcoming Tough Mudder in Seattle. I got sick this past week, so that has sucked as I felt like it would be a setback for me, but my trainer Jenn at Wholly Fit assures me that I am conditioned and I will be fine. This is my first Tough Mudder and I can't wait to cross the finish line to celebrate – hello glass of beer and then a hot tub! This will be my third mud race and it's the biggest. I feel primed and ready from also doing the 2 smaller mud races this past year along with my weekly event training - 1 was Mud Mulisha, which I talked about in my last newsletter and the other was Mud, Sweat & Tears. I'm ready right now to crush it ;) I hope I return a little stiff, but with no broken bones! Wish me luck!
Reducing Your Medication: Listen to Your Body
As far as change these past few month, I've undertaken the tough task of halving the medication that I take for nerve pain as a result of my stroke (I think damage was done on the first brain surgery when they ripped my head wide open as I was on a very thin rope dangling between life and death - I was already blind). During these past few months, the withdrawal from the medication has been arduous. I haven't spoken much to others about how hard it has been. As a result, working out for Tough Mudder has been challenging but feeling a little residual nerve pain surfacing means also that I'm moving forward and that pain is worth it despite. Also having a year's event training under my belt already has primed me too. I'm confident therefore that I will get things under control. I prefer to get off the amount of medication by upping my fitness and having Jenn and the Wholly Fit family's, as well as my personal family and loved ones supporting me through this rough patch rather than just taking a different kind of medication, which I too would then have to stop. Who knows what the withdrawal from that would be like?
Enlist People Who Care About You to Assist You
To help with the nerve pain, I've enlisted additional help for a few sessions to learn a "me specific" stretching routine from another fitness person Kyla Gagnon at Inside Out Fitness. She is not my long term person as I'm doing my best to stay committed and feel welcome to grow in my Wholly Fit family. It's also admittedly hard to stop your life and reassess and do more for yourself, but as a mother I know how optimal health will impact my son in a positive way. Sure I still have alcohol, cheat a bit. I'm 48-years old, I have to still enjoy my life, after all ;) But, I am conscientious about having a healthy mind set. Fitness with Jenn helps me to get and stay in this place. I've held tighter to Jenn's support in sticking with me, so that I can reduce my medication and lead an even healthier fitness lifestyle. Next month, we embark on a clean eating meal swap which I'm excited at being a part of.
While on the subject of food, check out the yummy picture above and try the recipe out:
Asian Cabbage Salad is a new favorite our house! This is a great lunch option that you can make a head of time. You can pack it in your cooler with the dressing separate. Then mix the dressing over salad an hour before you eat! Full of flavor and full of nutrition! Tip: There is a lot of dressing, so you can only use 1/2 of the dressing and save the rest for the next day!
3 tbsp rice vinegar
2tbsp fresh lime juice
2 tbsp. toasted sesame oil
1 1/2 tsp. fresh ginger juice (grate a piece of fresh ginger and squeeze juice into a bowl)
2 tbsp Bragg Liquid Aminos
1/2 head Napa or Savoy Cabbage (or regular green cabbage)
1 carrot, shredded
1/4 small red onion, thinly sliced
1 1/2 green onion, thinly sliced
2 tbsp roughly chopped cilantro
Himalayan Salt to taste
Mix the first 5 ingredients in a small bowl. Toss with remaining ingredients and let marinate in refrigerator for at least 15 minutes. Serves 1.
Are you looking for a boot camp to "be the best version of yourself" and live in Victoria, BC? If so, check out Wholly Fit's website at http://whollyfitvictoria.com/ and sign up.
SOMETHING I'VE DISCOVERED
Check it Out Section - Something I've Discovered
This is a new section I've added. It will be of passages, words of wisdom, books and websites. Anything that I feel is worth sharing with you.
This month I want to let you in on a gem of a website. A friend of mine is a personal coach. Katehad an amazing adventure in Costa Rica a little while back and found out also sorts of wonderful things about herself and the path she was moving down. She offers insights and life tools as a personal coach. Check out her website Zealand Coachingby clicking on the name for more details and let you get in on this gem of a website :)
Next month is October and we will be immersing ourselves into fall. I love the fall. It's one of my favorite times of year. The daylight is shorter, but for creative types darkness gives us a great excuse to become more focused on writing. After all, I can't see that the yard needs cutting and pruning and primping, so I can write guilt free! Also, I find my inspiration is higher at this time. Darkness evokes mystery that makes me ask questions, which when sifted and thought about turns into my writings.
This October though is also bringing me guilt about my poor eBook about my stroke. I have been fighting with myself to release it. But, I've been scared as I'm no longer the person I see in the pictures. I almost hit the delete button several times. I'm hoping deciding to keep moving forward on it is a good decision - I hate seeing myself at my lowest physical point and the ugly pictures as well. Don't get me wrong, I'm okay with seeing myself without make up on, but when you add medication and hospital lights to it, well yuck! It's just not a very flattering pictorial. I've wrestled if people will even care about it too. The one thought that haunts me though and draws me back in is "This eBook will help one person." If I am honest to myself the thought of helping at least one person overrides my doubts. So, I surmise that it's fine for me to feel unsettled because somewhere out there is an unsuspecting person who will join me in my Stroke Survivor Family and they might get something out of what I write. Or maybe their caregiver will. Maybe even both, or more.
Let's hope all of my readers stay healthy and to my friends in blue, and those riding right now for Tour de Rock, stay safe!